Love that has been renewed: Meet welcome mothers who help protect children and adolescents whose rights have been violated

As Machado de Assis writes, motherhood is the highest form of benevolence, and there is always room for one more in the heart of a mother, as the saying goes. And in a certain case, this love not only strengthens its altruistic character, but also constantly renews itself, even with its object, with the favorite subject. They are temporary mothers, who temporarily welcome children and adolescents in their families who have been legally removed from their parents or left to adopt their biological parents.

In Curitiba, according to the Social Action Foundation (FAS), there are currently 25 eligible families and 22 children and adolescents taking refuge under the “Family Reception” program in the form of a welcoming family. These are the social organization Acridus and Recreation trained to accept boys and girls who, rarely, have been subjected to violations of their rights (such as neglect, abandonment and physical, emotional and sexual violence) and are now awaiting trial. Deciding on their future: If they get up for adoption or go back to their old home.

The main purpose of the program, explained Tatiana Posa, FAS’s director of special social security, is to enable children and adolescents who have been safely removed from their relatives to maintain their family ties and community coexistence, to be welcomed individually within the welcoming family.

When there is no such possibility of reception, they are referred to the municipality’s own or partner organization, where they will be with dozens of other children and will be cared for by professionals. In Curitiba, about 500 children and adolescents have been sheltered in the institution.

“We can’t expect everything from God.”

At the age of 53, retired Angela Rosemary da Costa will celebrate Mother’s Day next weekend with her mother, daughter Julia, her brother and just three-and-a-half-month-old baby. The baby has been taking care of her since she was just 13 days old, leaving her birth mother to adopt. Powered by Blogger, he said he always liked to treat children and asked God to help, to protect the little ones. When he learned about the foster care program, he decided that it was time to ‘get his hands dirty’. “We can’t expect God to do everything,” he justifies.

Last year, she welcomed her first child, a three-year-old boy who came to her home in May and was there until December. The victim of neglect, the boy was already carrying some trauma and when he arrived, he was a little scared in front of so much news, so many new faces. Gradually, however, he became accustomed to it and developed a stronger bond with his family, until he began to consider the new home as his home. “It creates a strong bond. There is no way to be connected. They are scared when they come. Everything is new. Then they leave home. It’s really great,” says Angela.

While the family was preparing for the Christmas party, on December 23, unexpected news came: the judge who was handling the boy’s case had allowed him to return to his family of descent and he would be staying with an aunt. The boy will leave that day.

“When it’s time to leave, it’s sad, it’s complicated, but it’s a feeling of accomplishment. You know he was sent, that now he’s in a good condition,” said Angela, adding that she went with the boy to deliver him. Taxi. He has been returned to his family. “He was silent, we talked and he didn’t answer. He was terrified because he really wanted to go back to his family, but at the same time he didn’t want to go. He was divided. But he arrived later. [e reencontrou a família] She was happy, started playing, laughed, gave up. And then I was relieved. “

That makes love new

Despite the sense of accomplishment, the boy’s departure was undoubtedly painful for Angela. “When I looked back home there was a void. And it was really Christmas time. It was tragic, “said David Cook, chief of The Christian Science Monitor’s Washington bureau. “When one goes, the other comes, you will fall in love again, and so on.”

As soon as the baby arrived, the crowd began to prepare everything for the new member of the family: clothes, buy a bathtub, decorate a house … “We went to consult and the first doctor said it was nothing. I took him to the Pequeno Princip, the beginning of pneumonia. We were hospitalized for a week, she was taking antibiotics in her veins. It was very painful. “

Since then, the baby has recovered and grown a lot. She always smiles, especially at her sister Julia, who helps her mother take care of her foster brother. The family does not know how long they will keep the baby, but they also try not to worry about it.

“If you think about it later, you are not alive today, it is a joy to be with them. There is no point in thinking about leaving, you just have to enjoy every moment, “said Angela.

“Help and make a difference”

Dayanne Vieira, who has been licensed by Acridas since December 2020, learned about the family care program on television and soon became interested in participating in the project. “The reason was to be able to help exclusively and make a difference in the lives of these children,” he said, referring to the biological mother of an eight-year-old girl and her first foster care, as well as the care of a 12-year-old girl for six months.

Having a child at home has already brought up the issue, especially in the beginning, of some coexistence challenges. Over time, however, young people become accustomed to this idea, realizing the meaning of welcome. Practically, a new family or an extended family is formed.

“We have a biological daughter and, yes, there are some living challenges, after all, our daughter was the only child in the house and all the attention was focused on her. But over time, he realizes that the welcome child has not come to share, but to add. They live together like two sisters: they play, they fight … normal “, Dayan says.

So far, he says, the experience has worked to re-signal words like love, care and family. “Many of these kids, even as my own welcoming example, have no idea what their family means, routine, anything,” said Diane, who also imagined what the farewell moment would be like, since it was her first host.

“I am just happy to be free. She is ready to be adopted and has a family of her own So today the crowd is huge for him to be adopted by a wonderful family “, his mother said.” I believe the day of the match will be a mixture of feelings.

Requirements for participation

To participate in the Familia Acolhedora program, you must meet certain requirements: must be over 21 years of age, must live in Curitiba, must have financial stability, good physical and mental health. Interested parties may not be in the National Adoption Registry, have gone through recent mourning, have problems using alcohol or other drugs, in addition to problems pending with the judiciary or guardianship council.

In addition, participating families go through a training and qualification process, which is implemented by the social organizations Acridus and Recia, and through psychological and psychological assessment and registration, when they can instruct, for example, whether they are young men or women, children or Adolescents are followed by a judge approving a child or adolescent. All work is supervised by a technical team from the municipality and the Department of Justice, and the host family, who can stay with a young man in their home for up to 18 months, receives a R $ 998 scholarship.


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