How to meet your own child

Posted on 03/04/2022 14:48

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The way the child understands is created naturally. When they still do not speak, they give signs that indicate their feelings. Crying is one of those aspects. But it does not always adhere to standards. Some tips, yes, give the baby even. Nurse Marjorie Lobato doesn’t like to type by type.

For her, it looks like children can be categorized on the crying list and at the moment it forgets that everyone is one. It is often said that crying is the only way children communicate, but this is not entirely true, Marjorie teaches.

Crying is often the last option to be noticed, he noted. Before she cries out in agony, she will try to outsource what she needs in her own way. “It’s not easy to read, more because we know them. We’re strangers even after nine months in the womb,” he said.

Children complain when they are hungry, sleepless, thirsty, wanting to change positions, when they feel cold, hot or when they want to carry and hold. “Some studies in Europe and the United States have shown that crying in adults wakes up a part of the brain related to care. So, when we go to visit the baby, our brain already makes its connection. Gradually we understand every signal. And everything. It’s getting easier. Crying comes with body expressions, which will help us decipher it. “

In general, the cry of hunger accompanies the movement of the mother’s breast – the baby opens its mouth and moves its mouth. A tear of discomfort, which can be caused by a wet diaper, cold or heat, a tear that sounds like humming, but it doesn’t work – it keeps rehearsing and doesn’t succeed.

The baby’s cry seems to be rising with sleep and has eyes and ears. When crying is pain, related to colic, the baby is stressed, the abdomen is constricted, usually very red, and the legs move towards the abdomen.

For tours and travel, this is a controversial topic. If factors such as immunity are considered, the norm, and what some pediatricians and infectious specialists suggest is to start from the fifth month, when at least some vaccines have already received their second full dose, as in the case of meningitis and hepatitis. “But we know it’s almost impossible for many parents, so choose open and airy places, avoid clutter like malls and parties,” Marjorie teaches.

The outside world

It is interesting that the child stays with his parents as much as possible, without many visits and outings, which is out of their routine. “This moment of adaptation to the outside world is when she is finishing developing some of her systems and reuniting with her parents. So, not too much fashion has been invented.”

When it comes to sleep, Marjorie recalls that science has studied a lot about sleep and its cycles in both adults and children, and for this reason it can be clearly stated that a child’s sleep patterns are different from those of adults. You can’t expect a baby to sleep through the night.

When it comes to colic, they are often confused with the physiological discomfort that all babies will have. They are born immature and still develop with many systems, such as the gastrointestinal tract. Although, in the womb, babies do not know what hunger is – they are fed by the navel 24 hours a day, so they find it very strange to feel hungry after birth.

“At birth, the process of colonization of intestinal bacteria begins and peristalsis is realized, which is an involuntary movement of the digestive tract. Combining this movement with opening and closing of the anal sphincter, during defecation, is complicated. And demands a lot from the baby. Feels uncomfortable. “

This natural irritability of immaturity is called dyschesia, not colic. Here the baby feels uncomfortable, especially after breastfeeding and defecating, but he stays well. Colic itself can be caused by many things, even food allergies and the baby may behave differently. She cries more, is more irritable, sleeps less and rarely calms down.

Regarding breastfeeding, Marjorie highlighted the importance of family research on the subject since pregnancy. “Breastfeeding often causes Achilles heel in many women and due to lack of information, little support and pain, they end up weaning. And the golden standard food for newborns is breast milk.”

Regarding bathing, the nurse advised that it is contraindicated in the first 24 hours of life, and today it is mostly honored in maternity hospitals. At birth, he explains, the baby is covered in a secretion called vernix and this “natural cream” should be kept as long as possible, because it is very beneficial. In addition to helping to pass through the vaginal canal, since it is slippery, it also acts as a protective barrier, both preventing infection and reducing heat. “So, it’s born, just dry it and wrap the little one in a blanket or cloth and keep it cool. After the first day you can bathe normally, bath, shower, bucket, as you like. Just remember to give soap once.”


It is very important to follow the proposed immunization schedule. Still in the maternity ward, the baby receives the first dose of hepatitis B and BCG (against tuberculosis). Children should have a monthly pediatric follow-up in the first months of life and the pediatrician will be able to better follow the immunization schedule.

Marjorie is a massage therapist. For the pregnant women who come to her, she lists two points that she finds extremely important: being extraneous and having baby blues. “The mother must understand that babies are born immature and need a lot of care and attention to develop. Lap is not addictive, does not give up and does not spoil. Lap is needed to absorb chemical processes. It takes place in the baby’s body and Organizes itself for motherhood. Right after the baby is born, the baby blues is the stage where we sway between crying, sadness and extreme joy. It’s normal, it’s physiological, and it passes. Feeling insecure and scared is part of it You don’t have to feel like the worst mom. “

In 2018, Marjorie became pregnant, after three years of trying, and gave birth to Luiser. They need to be treated with respect to understand that the child is also an autonomous entity, he said. “When we respect a child as a person, we realize that he or she has the same desires and preferences as we do.”

Fear of mistakes

Businessman Sylvia Salvador, 33, mother of two-month-old Olivia. For her, what has become more challenging is the fear of making mistakes, not doing what is best for her daughter, especially in her daily choices, about her routine, feeding, breastfeeding, interacting with the environment.
“I wonder if I’m making healthy choices for her. We know that sleep deprivation and changing our routines can be tedious and challenging, but it’s part of the process. Is doing and I know if it’s right with me “, he says

Slowly, things get back on track. Professional commitments are being resumed, and a basic support for Sylvia comes from a helper who stays with the little one during the day. “Being close to her and someone close to me has helped me not to suffer from the fact that I’m slowly getting back to things. Olivia is following her eating routine, walking late in the afternoon and getting a good night’s sleep.”

Knowing how to communicate with Olivia and understanding what she asks is a learning process. “I still don’t know how to read all of Olivia’s symptoms. I can detect something from the colic pain when she cries, when she’s hungry. Olivia begins to interact with the environment and us and responds with excitement. I am learning to deal with understanding and it is a process that will not end soon. “

For her, breastfeeding was a big problem in the beginning. Olivia did not take the breast and it was necessary to consult a speech therapist. “Actually, it’s not easy for any mother in the beginning. I believe that even mothers who are not first timers like me still suffer from this process of breastfeeding,” she said.

The help of her husband is crucial for Sylvia. “She’s a life partner. She not only runs Olivia’s work, but the house as well. She looks after the dog and continues to run it, which was once my sole responsibility. She quickly took me to where I needed to go. He was and is a great partner, friend and father. “

Sylvia says that three years ago, she wasn’t sure she really wanted to be a mother. “Last year, it became the key to my heart and I decided it was time. And nothing compares to what I’m feeling today. The love, the gratitude and the return that the baby gives with a gesture, a smile. Priceless, it An experience that has no precedent. And only those mothers will feel it. This reciprocity and that look fills the heart and makes it valuable. “


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